Abhiman: A Complex Emotional Reaction Associated with Being Hurt

Abstract

Interpersonal relationships are widely acknowledged as significant predictors of both physical health and overall, well-being. This study aims to provide an in-depth exploration into the intricate conceptualization of “abhiman”, a unique form of emotion involving feeling hurt and sulkiness. Since, “abhiman” is an Odia word and we could not find its exact English equivalent, we used the Odia word as it is. The sample comprising 13 literature experts, both of Odia and English language participated in comprehensive interviews. Through unstructured interviews, qualitative data was collected. The analysis revealed seven prominent thematic dimensions. The findings showed that people experience “abhiman” after being hurt by their loved ones and there are certain events that lead to the experience of this emotion. It is a mixture of a wide range of emotions like anger, sadness, pride and a sense of self-respect. While experiencing “abhiman”, people have a strong hope that the target person will apologize. After the target person apologizes, her/his relationship with the person may get better. A common behavioral response seen in people experiencing this emotion is sulking: that is withdrawal from participation in conversations or activities with the loved ones, in general and the target person in particular, remaining resentful and in bad mood. Abhiman can have a harmful effect on interpersonal relationships if it is not well responded to by the target person, whereas it can also promote healthier relationships if it is well responded.