Man to Man: A Study on Companion Choice of Homosexual Men

Abstract

Choosing a partner is an important transition from being single to being in a relationship. The present study attempted to understand the emotional, physical, and socio-cultural factors that influenced companion choice of homosexual men. Beliefs of homosexual men about companion choice, expectations, type of relationship, least and most desired traits in the companion, methods, and places used for interaction with the homosexual community were explored. Additionally, challenges faced in the process of finding companions and related mental health concerns were probed. A quantitative descriptive study method was used for the purpose of this study. Data was collected from 116 homosexual men with a pre-coded self-designed questionnaire, administered online. Results indicated that “trust, meaningful conversation, loving and caring, cooperative and understanding and availability” were the most desired emotional traits. The least desired traits were “impulsivity and controlling”. The participants preferred partners to be of similar age. Most participants claimed that their partner’s financial standing was unimportant. Nearly all participants wanted to be in monogamous relationships; but almost half stated that cheating was not a deal breaker. All participants stated the importance of engaging in safe sex; however almost half said that they had engaged in risky sexual behavior. Three fourth of participants stated that they used social media to get in touch with the community. More than half the participants had faced discrimination. The study provides implications for mental health professionals working with sexual minorities.